Would you like to fall in love? Are you single, dating, and looking for a
long term relationship? There are six elements that have been identified by
counselors, therapists, and researchers that determine if someone will fall
in love with you. They are:
If you want someone to fall in love with you, it is important to remember
that the first time they see you is most likely when they make an assessment
of you. Some key areas to pay attention to are: your smile (whiten your
teeth), your clothes (wear something flattering that fits and is a good
color for you), your shoes (women spend a lot of time shopping for shoes, so
guys need to be aware of finding attractive shoes), your hands (men like to
see manicures; women do not like to see men with chewed nails). Further, you
are remembered when you are friendly, a good listener, and can tell an
Similar and complementary qualities
People fall in love when they have similar and complementary qualities.
Contrary to popular belief, we are not attracted to someone who is too
different from the way we are...at least in values. If you do not share
similar values, you may find yourself bumping up against a non-negotiable
requirement which will eventually break you up. We are very attracted to
people who honor the same values and beliefs that we hold dear.
People fall in love and have more chance of staying in love if they share
equality. Intelligence, attractiveness, education, and cultural backgrounds
are some of the characteristics where we look to see if we are equals.
If you are a dating single looking for a lasting relationship, pay attention
to how you validate others. People fall in love with someone who sees who
they are and likes what they see. Don't be afraid to give and receive
People fall in love with you when you are a good listener, reflect back to
the speaker what they have said, and show that you appreciate and hear what
they communicate. People are just dying to be heard and understood.
The attitude a person has about sex is important to a lasting relationship.
Men in particular will not stay in a marriage where there is no sex.
If you feel any confusion about any of the six principles above, consult
with a counselor or coach until you are comfortable with how you feel about
them. These are the elements that cause people to fall in love with you.