﻿<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8" standalone="yes"?><rss version="2.0" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:trackback="http://madskills.com/public/xml/rss/module/trackback/" xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/" xmlns:slash="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/slash/"><channel><title>IT博客-楠哥在线</title><link>http://www.cnitblog.com/asknan/</link><description>什么东东</description><language>zh-cn</language><lastBuildDate>Mon, 04 May 2026 19:25:43 GMT</lastBuildDate><pubDate>Mon, 04 May 2026 19:25:43 GMT</pubDate><ttl>60</ttl><item><title>大学应不应谈爱,如何谈爱,谈恋爱的方法</title><link>http://www.cnitblog.com/asknan/archive/2007/12/14/37684.html</link><dc:creator>夏天不热</dc:creator><author>夏天不热</author><pubDate>Fri, 14 Dec 2007 01:42:00 GMT</pubDate><guid>http://www.cnitblog.com/asknan/archive/2007/12/14/37684.html</guid><wfw:comment>http://www.cnitblog.com/asknan/comments/37684.html</wfw:comment><comments>http://www.cnitblog.com/asknan/archive/2007/12/14/37684.html#Feedback</comments><slash:comments>0</slash:comments><wfw:commentRss>http://www.cnitblog.com/asknan/comments/commentRss/37684.html</wfw:commentRss><trackback:ping>http://www.cnitblog.com/asknan/services/trackbacks/37684.html</trackback:ping><description><![CDATA[<p>从心理学的角度,我比较了解女孩子的心理.女孩子大多不会主动出击,去追求自己喜欢的男孩,除了确实太喜欢了或者是那种比较有个性的勇敢的女孩子.所以,如果你很喜欢一个女孩子,并且认为她对你也有点意思,那就主动点,别跟她搞拉锯战,自己难受,说不定你喜欢的人也痛苦. <br></p>
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<p>任何一个女孩子在被人追的时候,心理都是很复杂的.她也许很开心,但是又带着点惶恐,她对这个闯进自己平静的生活的男孩子,有着欲拒还迎的矛盾心理,她不是故意的.不要以为她在考验你,她其实也在和自己斗争,她怕受到伤害. </p>
<p>不要怕你的主动会带来她的反感,你不主动,她也不主动,也就慢慢淡下来了.如果你开始的表白被她拒绝,那也很正常呀.不要气馁,谁知道这个女孩子心里在想什么呢? </p>
<p>也许你再表白两次,她就会被你打动,一个心地善良的好女孩是很容易感动的. </p>
<p>如果你受到一次挫折,就立刻离开,再也不去答理这个女孩,把自己紧紧地保护起来,默默地舔舐伤口,在你痛苦的同时,殊不知,那个女孩子也许也正在心里遗憾,后悔呢!也许她会偷偷哭泣,后悔拒绝了你,再看到你漠然的眼神,她也很痛心,但是她却不会对你说,绝对不会请求你回来追她.你的过度的自尊心,可能会伤害了女孩子敏感的心. </p>
<p>她会认为你不是真诚的喜欢他,要不怎么会就这么放弃了她? </p>
<p>有人说,男生真难,追女孩子太不容易了.可是我的感觉却是,这种现象跟男人和女人的社会角色定位是分不开的,从生理和社会的角度,女人总是被动的.如果反过来,让男人都脉脉含羞,女人变得勇往直前,世界才乱了套呢!女人的羞涩总是美好的,动人的呀~~~我总是听说是某个勇敢的男人战胜了多少困难,最终获得佳人芳心.相反的例子却少得很. <br></p>
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<p>有的男生,就怕别人说自己什么死缠烂打,落下不好的名声.可是我觉得男生追求自己喜欢的女孩子,受了点挫折还继续对这个女孩子好,说明人家确实很喜欢,很有诚意,如果没成功,也不遗憾,并没什么啊?谁让人家喜欢了?最讨厌别人跟着瞎掺乎,也最讨厌那种自己没主意,过于在乎别人对自己看法的男生,活该这种男生找不到女朋友. </p>
<p>是男人就勇敢点,女孩子本来就感性,容易沉浸在爱情里.虽然你付出了辛苦,而一旦你的真心打动了她,那么你得到的将是更多更久的加倍的爱.这样的例子,在身边比比皆是.女孩子对自己的男朋友都是很温柔很贴心的,为了换来这份甜蜜,开头的辛苦算什么啊?而且大多好女孩都爱得挺投入挺专一的. </p>
<p>所以,建议有的男生勇敢一点,去追求自己喜欢的女孩子,不要那么畏畏缩缩,一来是让人觉得你没男人气概,二来是你自己怪难受的,然而最最最重要的还是:最后你什么都得不到.幸福总是自己挣来的,别指望别人施舍给你! </p>
<p>再补充一句,我觉得主动点儿挺好的,因为你的目标是你自己真心喜欢的,女孩子往往被动,被动的只能选择接受和拒绝,所以我宁愿主动出击,爱我所爱,无怨无悔<br></p>
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